The Divorce Decision Podcast
If you’re contemplating divorce, wondering whether your marriage can be rebuilt, or trying to make a clear decision without acting out of panic, fear, guilt, or pressure, this podcast is for you.
The Divorce Decision Podcast is for people in unhappy, uncertain, or emotionally painful marriages who are asking one of the hardest questions of their lives:
Should I stay, or should I go?
Hosted by Kari Hoskins, a professionally certified relationship coach with a Master’s Degree in Interpersonal Communication, this podcast takes an honest, balanced look at the real dynamics behind divorce decisions. We talk about the marriage patterns, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, conflict cycles, resentment, trust issues, infidelity, and unresolved pain that lead couples to this crossroads.
You’ll hear conversations about:
- how couples get here
- what rebuilding a marriage actually looks like
- what separation and divorce can look like
- how to communicate when everything feels fragile
- how to make a thoughtful, clear, regret-aware decision
What makes this podcast different is simple: there is no agenda here.
No pushing you to leave. No pressuring you to stay.
Because the truth is: leaving is scary, and staying is scary.
This podcast is here to help you slow down, understand what’s really happening in your relationship, and make one of the most painful and important decisions of your life with more clarity, honesty, and self-trust.
Kari has advanced training in couples coaching, trauma, relational coaching, conflict, infidelity, PTSD, and addiction, offering compassionate, grounded support for people facing the heartbreak, confusion, and complexity of relationship crossroads.
If you are struggling in your marriage, questioning divorce, or trying to figure out whether repair is possible, The Divorce Decision Podcast will give you practical insight, emotional clarity, and a more balanced conversation about staying, leaving, and everything in between.
Episodes
69 episodes
Ep. 68 Is Uncertainty Keeping You Stuck?
If you’re waiting to feel 100% certain before deciding whether to stay in your marriage or leave, you may be waiting for something that never comes.You want to know the kids will be okay. That you’ll be financially okay. That you won’t r...
Ep. 67: The Pain You’re Trying to Avoid May Be the Pain You’re Prolonging
When you’re stuck trying to decide what to do about your marriage, your mind can spend a lot of time imagining everything that could go wrong.What if I stay and nothing ever changes?What if I leave and end up alone?What if ...
Ep. 66: I Know I Should Leave… So Why Can’t I?
You know your marriage isn’t working.Maybe there’s been repeated infidelity. Addiction. Years of disrespect. An unequal partnership. Broken trust. Or maybe you’ve carried the financial, emotional, and practical weight of the marriage for...
Ep. 65 "But My Spouse Is A Good Person... "
He's a good dad." "She's never cheated." "Everybody loves them." If you're carrying guilt about questioning your marriage because your spouse is a good person, this episode is for you.So many of my clients feel guilty ...
Ep. 64 How Coaching Can Help You Stop Going in Circles About Your Marriage
When you're at the Crossroads in your marriage, it can feel like you're having the same conversation with yourself over and over again.Should I stay? Should I leave? Have I tried hard enough? Am I reacting out of anger? Am I staying beca...
Ep. 63 Should You Stay, Leave, or Keep Waiting?
Do you feel torn between staying, leaving, or waiting? Stage Five of the divorce decision process is the Crossroads, and it's one of the most exhausting places to be. In this episode, I'm breaking down why ...
Ep. 62 Letting Go Of Resentment Doesn’t Mean Forgiving, Forgetting, or Staying
If resentment has become a major part of your marriage, you may assume that letting go of it means forgiving your spouse, excusing what happened, or deciding to stay.It doesn’t.In this episode, I’m staying with Stage Four: The ...
Ep. 61: Is Resentment Making You Question Your Marriage?
You used to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Now you don't.Somewhere along the way, the small stuff stopped feeling small. The forgotten text, the late pickup, the dishes left again — they don't just annoy you anymore. They fee...
Ep. 60: The Testing Stage — 4 Mistakes That Can Sabotage Real Change
You told your spouse something has to change.And now you’re watching.Are they following through? Is the effort real? Will it last—or are things eventually going to slide right back to the way they were before?Welcome to ...
Ep. 59: Stage 2 Truth Telling -"I Need You to Understand How Serious This Has Become"
If you've been hinting at how unhappy you are and hoping your spouse will finally connect the dots — this episode is for you.In Stage One, you privately recognized something wasn't right. Stage Two is where that private knowing be...
Ep. 58: Stage 1- The Moment You Can't Pretend Anymore
Before anyone starts thinking about divorce, there's a quieter moment most people never talk about — the moment the unhappiness stops feeling temporary. Maybe it's a hum of loneliness that won't go away, even when your spouse is sit...
Ep. 57: The Missing Map For Couples Considering Divorce
If you've been asking yourself, "Should I stay or should I leave?" over and over again, this episode is for you.Many people spend four to five years contemplating divorce before making a decision. The problem isn't that y...
Ep. 56: 3 Things Your Unhappiness Is Teaching You
If you're unhappy in your marriage, it's easy to get stuck pointing at the obvious stuff — the dishes he won't do, the phone she won't put down, the sex you're not having, the way he shuts down every time you bring something up. But...
Ep. 55: Is Your Conflict Normal? 3 Questions to Ask Yourself
Is the fighting in your marriage normal — or is it a sign of something deeper? Today, I'm answering one of the questions I get asked most by walking you through three simple signs to check in your own relationship.You'...
Ep. 54: Are You the Pursuer or the Withdrawer in Your Marriage?
What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn’t the topic you keep fighting about… but the pattern you fall into every time you try to talk about it?In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I’m breaking down the pursuit...
Ep. 53: Hard Season or Marriage Crossroads? Here's How To Know
Is your marriage going through a hard season, or are you standing at a real crossroads?In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins helps you tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and a deeper marriage cris...
Ep. 52: Unhappily Married? Stop Doing These 3 Things Before It Gets Worse
Unhappy marriages don’t usually fall apart overnight. They often deteriorate through small, repeated patterns that become part of everyday life.In this episode, Kari shares three things to stop doing if you’re unhappy in your marriage: b...
Ep. 51: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The Question of Desire
In the final episode of the Can This Marriage Heal? series, Kari tackles the question that keeps people up at night: If real change were possible, would you actually want to stay?This isn't a question about whether your...
Ep. 50: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? One Thing You Can't Ignore
Can Your Marriage Be Saved? One Thing You Can't IgnoreAre you wondering if your marriage can be fixed — or if it's already too late? In this episode of the Divorce Decision Podcast, host Kari Hoskins digs into one of the most impo...
Ep. 49: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The First Sign Repair is Still Possible
If you're wondering whether or not your marriage can be repaired, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins begins a 3-part series on one of the biggest questions couples face wh...
Ep. 48: How to Live Together While Deciding Whether to Divorce
What do you do when divorce has been brought up or just decided on but you’re still living together?This is one of the most emotionally confusing stages of the divorce decision. You may still be sharing a bedroom, parenting together, eat...
Ep. 47: 5 Options For A Marriage In Limbo
Should you stay married, separate, or get divorced? Most people think the divorce decision has only two options: stay or leave. But the truth is, the decision is usually much more nuanced than that.In this episode of The Divorce Decis...
Ep. 46: Before You Say The Word Divorce: How to Tell Your Spouse You’re Unhappy
Have you been secretly unhappy in your marriage but unsure how to tell your spouse?In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins talks to the spouse who has been carrying private pain, rese...
Ep. 45: Are You Unhappy In Your Marriage? The Subconscious Thought Pattern Making It Worse
Do relatively small things that your spouse does or says create big feelings inside of you? Is it normal for you to feel upset, angry, annoyed or some other negative emotion towards your spouse regularly?If you answer...
Ep. 44: Three Ways Justifying Your Divorce Decision Messes With Your Clarity
In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I talk about a common struggle people face when they’re trying to decide whether to stay in a marriage or leave: the pressure to justify their decision to other people.I explain why...